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我和筆者(ALETHEIA LUNA) 產生越來越多情感連結。感受到對方在書寫當下的狀態。大家是否感覺到?





Twin flame separation is not like typical relationship breakdown.


When we separate from our flames it’s as though our entire lives have been shattered. The deep and intense love that we feel towards our twin flames makes any form of split agonizing and almost unbearable.


Having received so many stories from lost souls over the years about twin flame separation, I thought I’d finally write about this topic. Being in a twin flame relationship myself, I’ve experienced how overwhelming, intimidating and terrifying it can get, and how insufferable it is to separate – even just temporarily.


Before you read on, please ensure that you aren’t in a co-dependent or unhealthy relationship. The difference between twin flame relationships and co-dependent relationships, is that twin flames relationships are defined by respect, equality, negotiation and healthy boundaries. On the other hand, co-dependent relationships are characterized by feeling trapped, unequal, devalued and reliant on the other for a sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, it is possible to confuse co-dependency with twin flame love. Please be careful of confusing the two.


5 Causes of Twin Flame Separation


One of the most painful stages is the twin flame relationship that of the “Runner and Chaser.” After the initial stages of ecstatic union and fairy-tale partnership, things start to heat up. Egos begin to clash. Core wounds, insecurities and traumas are rubbed raw. Shadow Selves lash out.


As a result, it’s inevitable that almost every twin flame relationship battles through drama and dysfunction at first. Understandably, this comes as a devastating shock. What happened to the perfect, rosy relationship paradise where everything was kisses and cuddles? At this point, many twin flame couples wind up confused and disorientated. Was it all a lie? Was it all an illusion?


The answer is “no.” The intensity you experienced was not a figment of your imagination. The sense of familiarity and déjà vu you felt wasn’t a mystical apparition. It was real. Don’t doubt it. It’s simply buried under the layers of your damaged egos.


It could be said that the sole purpose of twin flame relationships is to help us soulfully mature and become the best versions of ourselves possible. In fact, despite how difficult they can be, twin flame relationships are so powerful because they are catalysts of growth. Our twin flames help to ruthlessly expose the dark, disowned, fractured parts of ourselves that we’ve hidden away. Not only that, but our twin flames provoke our inner growth by unintentionally (or intentionally) irking us. The anger we feel towards them is only really a reflection of the anger we feel towards ourselves.


Sometimes one, or both partners in a twin flame relationship become so infuriated and incapable of co-existing that they separate. What is the cause of twin flame separation? We’ll see below:


1. Psychological and spiritual immaturity未成熟的心理和靈性狀態

Life is a process of growth. Not only do our physical bodies grow, but our inner selves grow as well. One of the primary causes of twin flame separation is immaturity. When we’re immature, we have low emotional intelligence meaning that we struggle to identify, manage and cope with our emotions and those of others. Not only that, but spiritual immaturity thrives in proportion to the stubbornness and magnitude of the ego. In other words, the bigger the ego self, the less harmony there is. The ego wants to believe itself to be charming, magnificent, all-knowing, and perfect. But when it is challenged in any way, shape, or form, there is hell to pay.


Almost all of us are ruled by the ego self – if we weren’t, we’d be enlightened. But not all egos are the same. There are strong egos, and there are weak egos. The stronger an ego is, the more likely it is to run away from a person or situation which makes it feel impotent. Twin flame relationships are one such place. In fact, twin flame relationships are essentially made to dissolve the ego … and the ego despises that.


2. Lack of self-love and respect 缺乏自愛和尊重

The major requirement necessary for functioning smoothly in a twin flame relationship seems to be self-love. For example, before Sol and I met, we both worked on loving and accepting the people we were. This is also true for other successful twin flame partnerships.


Without self-love, there can be no genuine love for others. Instead, the love is tainted with neediness, co-dependency and “conditions.” We can never give unconditional love to our partners without first showing fierce unconditional love towards ourselves. As a result of this, some twin flame relationships unfortunately crumble under the weight of insecurity and self-hatred.


3. More life lessons need to be learned 還有「課」要上

Life needs to prepare you before you enter a twin flame relationship. Sometimes this means that you need to enter other relationships, establish new friendships, or expand your life experience (travel, volunteer, get a new job) before you’re ready. This is all a matter of trial and error. Some circumstances will bestow you with gentle insight, and others will leave you crushed and fighting for air. Whatever the case, don’t shut yourself off from the world. The more you test your boundaries, the more you learn.


4. Healing needs to occur 仍需療癒

Sometimes our twin flames show up at a point in life when we are suffering immensely. Our suffering may come from a tragedy, death, form of abuse or even another relationship breakup. We may not emotionally be in a place to open up yet. Therefore, a process of healing may be necessary first.


5. It’s just not the time yet 時機不對

Life can be mysterious. Sometimes twin flame separation occurs because the moment in time isn’t right. Sometimes other journeys need to be completed, and other people need to be met. Sometimes we don’t even know the reason why. The best thing to do in this situation is to surrender. This can be extremely hard, but trust that the experience will help you grow stronger and wiser. Who knows what the future brings?



  • 自我或小我,都是大我或靈魂的一部分,因為我們的靈魂接納所有不完美、愛逃避、憤怒的自己。一直以來,它們和諧共處。

  • 靈魂知道小我有許多恐懼,他安排相應的人生功課,讓我們面對小我的害怕和限制,放下那些讓我們作繭自縛的執著,並意識到是自己身邊厚厚的圍牆擋住了慈悲和溫暖進入心房。

  • 隨著靈性成長,我們會經歷覺知自我、認識自我、療癒自我、以及放下自我幾個階段。大多數時刻,我們需要在這幾個階段中不斷巡迴往復。

  • 而更精準地說,我們消融的,是自我設下的邊界,而不是自我本身。

  • 當我們越能夠認識自我的框框和邊界,看到自我的限制,嘗試消融自我設下的圍牆之際,便越能超越個體限制,理解那極端不同的火焰愛侶,並嘗試尊重、同情共感,並給予無條件的愛。

  • 所以,我們越能對自己的自我框架和傷痕慈悲,也越能對雙生火焰給予無條件的愛。

  • 而自我從此就沒有邊界了嗎?也未必。在極少數時候,我們仍然感到憤怒、嫉妒、不安,但我們能用愛與慈悲來安撫這些情緒(無論那來自他人還是自己)。

  • 消融掉自我的圍牆之後,自我本身仍有存在的必要。自我,定義「我是誰」,幫助我們找到身分認同與發光的舞台,知道自己在世界上的位置與職責。所以,我們會更積極與勇敢地承認,而不是逃避我們在此世的擁有的性格資源、天賦、個性和品質。


Walk the path less travelled


Our names are Aletheia Luna and Mateo Sol and we currently live in Perth, Western Australia.

我們是Aletheia Luna和Mateo Sol,現居Perth (Western Australia)。

Our mission is to help others embrace the path of the lone wolf and listen to the soul’s calling. Our goal is to provide a grounded and balanced perspective of spirituality that doesn’t bypass the raw, real, and messy aspects of spiritual growth or psychological development.


We are deeply drawn to exploring and exposing both the light and shadow side of human nature and spirituality. We strive towards integration, balance, wholeness, and embracing both the sacred and wild aspects of being human. Read more.


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